How to take care of yourself after a breakup: 10 Acts of self-care

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Acts of Selfcare
Going through a breakup takes a mental and emotional toll and this can affect your overall health. It can be tough to overcome this and you can get stuck in a cycle of depression and self-neglect. This is why you need to take care of yourself after a breakup and spend time doing activities that have a positive impact on your life, such as spending time with friends and dealing with your emotions in a healthy way. Self-care can help ease the aftermath of a breakup and help you move on so that you can go back to enjoying life.

1) Spend time with friends

Spending time with friends after a breakup is a good way to get out of the house and do something fun to take your mind off of what’s happened. Just being around people can make you feel more energetic and you can hang out together more often than you used to when you were in a relationship. You realize that even though you’re single you still have friends who care about you and who are an important part of your life.

2) Expand your social life

You can join local groups that specialize in hobbies like painting or cooking to find a new way to spend your evenings. Going out to meet new people in a platonic way can help you make more friends and this takes away the pressure of hooking up that happens when you go to places like clubs or bars. This also gives you something to look forward to every week and learning something new is going to keep you mentally active.

3) Get rid of negative mementos

Everyone has mementos from their relationships, whether it’s pictures, texts or trinkets. These are a reminder of the past and you need to put these away or get rid of them so that you can move on more easily. If you don’t get rid of them you’re going to spend time looking at them and remembering how happy you used to be and get depressed over the relationship going wrong. When these items aren’t around you can focus on more happier things and you don’t feel weighed down by the past.

4) Try having sex with no commitment

Your libido may slow down after a breakup because you’re depressed but after a while your sexual needs are going to need to be taken care of. You may be tempted to jump back into dating but if you’re not over your ex then the new relationship isn’t going to work out. This is when having sex with no commitment can be beneficial because you can have fun in the bedroom while still giving yourself the time you need to deal with your broken heart. All you have to do is join an online dating site and look for someone who only wants a hookup.

5) Go on a mini vacation

Going on a mini vacation
Going on a mini vacation can help you through a breakup because it lets you get away from your everyday life. A change of scenery can put you in a better mood and having time to yourself without worrying about work or household chores can help you relax. This can be done on a budget and on a weekend by taking a drive to a couple of towns away so you don’t have to deal with the stress of planning a big trip.

6) Give yourself a goal to achieve

You may feel restless after a breakup because any plans that you made with your partner aren’t going to happen now and you don’t know what to do with yourself. To give your life meaning again you can give yourself a goal to work towards so you can stay motivated and get excited about your future. Think about what you want to do in life, like go back to school or learn a new skill, and find out what you need to do to accomplish this. Make a plan then start working on your goal so that you’re using your free time constructively.

7) Exercise to deal with stress and anger

Dealing with a breakup is going to make you stressed and angry and you need to find a healthy way to experience these otherwise you’re going to act out in bad ways, like snapping at your friends or drinking more often. Exercise is a good way to deal with these emotions because it’s physically active and gets your adrenaline going. You can do aggressive activities like boxing to get out your frustrations and since exercise is done in blocks of time you have a set period for when you can lose control and get all of your anger out.

8) Treat yourself

A breakup is a period of mourning and sadness is going to follow you around for a while so it’s nice to treat yourself as a way of temporarily putting yourself in a better mood. Do something that you enjoy but didn’t do often when you were dating, like going hiking or having a spa day. You can also treat yourself with something you’ve always wanted, like a nice watch. You can see these treats as a nice way to kick off the single life and enter the new chapter of your life. Use the good mood this brings as motivation to keep moving forward with your life and finding your way back to happiness.

9) Experience all of your feelings

You’re going to be experiencing a lot of feelings as you deal with a breakup and the worse thing you can do is ignore them and pretend everything is okay. You need to allow yourself to experience all of your feelings, even the painful ones so that they don’t build up over time. Dealing with it in the moment forces you to confront it so that the next time you experience a strong emotion it doesn’t affect as much. Eventually you’re going to move on and the breakup won’t be so painful.

10) Work on improving yourself

Taking the time to improve yourself after a breakup can help because you’re achieving a goal and increasing your self-confidence. You can improve yourself physically by dieting and exercising or trying a new hairstyle if you want to make yourself more attractive. You can also improve yourself mentally by going to therapy, having a more active social life or challenging yourself to achieve a goal. You’re using your hurt from the breakup as motivation to make your life better instead of letting it tear you down.

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