10 Tips on how to discuss having a threesome

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discuss having a threesome A threesome can be a great way to push your sexual boundaries or get your sex life out of a rut. It can also help bring you and your partner closer because you learn to trust each other on a deeper level while sharing a new experience together. This can be a tricky subject to bring up, especially if you’re unsure of how they’ll react. The right approach to discussing this sexual activity can help you decide how to proceed in a way that won’t damage your relationship and spice-up your sex life.

1) Choose the right time

You need to choose the right time to discuss having a threesome because both of you need to be in the mood to talk about a sensitive subject like that. If you bring it up before or after sex then they may think it’s because you’re bored of them and want someone new. A good time to talk about it is when both of you are in a good mood and are relaxing. You don’t want any distractions, like playing on your phone or watching TV so make sure it’s a quiet moment. Ask if you can talk to them about something personal then ease it into the conversation.

2) Watch threesome porn

Find a couple of sexy videos beforehand and when you’re watching porn together you can tell them you found something you liked. Show it to them and see if they like it too. You can get them more interested in it by showing them how much it turns you on, like verbally saying how hot it makes you or touching them while they watch.

3) Ask if they’ve thought about it before

Being upfront and asking them if they’ve thought about having a threesome before can bring it out in the open in a quick way. It can be scary saying something like this but it gives you an answer right away and their reaction will make it obvious how they really feel about it. When you ask them this you have to be careful not to pressure them into saying what you want or interrupt them if they’re going back and forth about it. Give them time to think of their answer and afterwards you can tell them how you feel about it.

4) Tell them you had a sexy dream

Putting the attention on you can help make it easier to discuss because it gives them a chance to listen and think before doing anything. You can tell them you had a sexy dream about having a threesome and now you can’t stop thinking about it. Tell them how much it turns you on and that you’d like to make it a reality because it’s now one of your sexual fantasies. Make sure you mention them more than the other person so they don’t get their feelings hurt.

5) Talk about how to spice-up the bedroom

If your sex life has been boring lately you can ease your way into talking about a threesome by bringing up what’s been happening in the bedroom. Be honest and tell them that you feel like your sex life is dead and you want to make it better. Say you want to spice-up things in the bedroom and ask if they had any ideas on new things you can try. After they share their thoughts you can share yours which is when you can mention maybe trying a threesome.

6) Think about what both of you want

When discussing a threesome you need to remember that it’s about being a couple and finding someone else to bring into the bedroom. It isn’t about you getting to have sex with someone you think is hot without cheating on your partner. You need to pick someone that’s right for both of you and this takes time. Think about what you want and talk about the kind of person you’re looking for and what you hope to get from the threesome so that both of you are on the same page.

7) Share sexual fantasies

sharing your sexual fantasies
Sharing sexual fantasies is an easy way to discuss bringing another person into the bedroom. It’s a common fantasy so your partner probably won’t be surprised when you mention it but they may worry that you no longer find them attractive and want someone new. To stop them from feeling this way you can talk about other fantasies you have and encourage them to share their sexual fantasies. You’ll be surprised at how much you have in common and being open about it makes it easier to be more specific about what exactly you want to try.

8) Research online beforehand

It’s easy to get carried away with sexual fantasies and not think about how different they can be from reality. Before you start talking to your partner about wanting to have a threesome you should spend some time imagining what it would be like in real life and researching it online. You can talk to other couples who have done it and get some ideas on how to have do this while keeping your relationship strong. This helps you be prepared and have a realistic view of what can happen so the conversation will go smoother.

9) Talk about personal boundaries

Personal boundaries need to be established when discussing having a threesome and it needs to be done early on. Each of you need to know what your limits are so that they’re respected and can base the rest of the conversation on these limits. It makes the topic feel safer because you trust your partner not to suggest something you’re uncomfortable with and this makes both of you be more honest and open to the idea of having a threesome. Knowing boundaries helps you explore different scenarios because it gives you criteria to work with and you can work together to come up with scenarios that both of you can get excited about.

10) Don’t rush into decisions

When you first discuss having a threesome it should be casual and with no expectations. This is when the two of you start thinking about doing this, what your limits are and the kind of person you’d want to find. It’s not about making any decisions because it’s too soon and you may end up doing something you regret. Just share your thoughts and feelings, be supportive and listen to what your partner has to say. There will be plenty of time to discuss this again and in more detail so let the first conversation be an easy one.

Dating Writer at MonkeysReviews.com
She lives in Malibu (California).
Currently She works as dating writer for different adult blogs, and She coaches men and women on sex and relationship.
Katy Benett

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