Making a long-distance relationship work isn’t easy, especially if you’re dealing with the quarantine, because it requires making more of an effort and finding the right balance. Both of you need to feel like you’re in a strong and loving relationship so you need to take things seriously and go the extra mile by practicing good communication skills and finding ways to spend time together despite the distance.
1) Don’t act possessive
Being in a long-distance relationship can make you act possessive because you’re over-compensating for not being together and you want to show them how much you love them. You’ll do things like call them constantly, want to know every little detail of their lives and generally remind them that you’re their partner. This is going to be smothering after a while and they’re going to pull away from you. You need to be in regular contact with them but also remember to give them some space like you would if you weren’t in a long-distance relationship.
2) Practice good communication
Practicing good communication in a long-distance relationship is important because it strengthens the trust between the two of you. Having a regularly scheduled time to talk online as well as little surprise texts can help you maintain contact but you also need to be aware of how you talk. You need to be honest with them because they can tell when something’s bothering you and keep them up to date on what’s going on in your life so they feel like they’re a part of it.
3) Talk about long-distance relationship boundaries
Before you start a long-distance relationship you need to talk about boundaries so each of you understand what’s expected to happen and what’s unacceptable behavior. You need to discuss if you’re going to be monogamous with each other or if you’re allowed to have casual hookups. You also need to talk about whether you’ll tell your partner about these hookups and other relationship issues like how often you’re going to talk to each other and how long you’ll be apart.
4) Be creative with your sex life
A long-distance relationship can revive your sex life at the start of it because you miss each other but it’ll fade over time and you’ll think about sleeping with other people. It’s hard to feel sexy when you’re not in the same room so you need to start being creative with your sex life so that it’s still a part of your relationship. Using toys or role-plays can spice things up if you’re camming or you can try phone sex and talk dirty to each other.
5) Find activities you can do together
It’s possible to still do things as a couple when you’re in a long-distance relationship so make a list and do them otherwise being in contact will just mean the two of you checking in with each other. You can play games together, watch a movie or TV show, use your phone to take them on a tour of your city or listen to music. Quality time together can ease the pain of being apart and will make the distance seem less like a burden.
6) Keep an active social life
Keeping an active social life is important for your overall mental health because you’re spending time with friends and doing hobbies that you enjoy. When you’re in a long-distance you may push aside your social life because you’re now spending all your time talking to your partner because you miss them or because of the Coronavirus. They should be a major part of your life but you should also spend time doing things that make you happy otherwise you’re going to become obsessed with them and that’s going to put a strain on the relationship.
7) Use different ways to keep in touch
There’s lot of different ways to keep in touch when you’re in a long-distance relationship so use them so you don’t get bored with the same routine. You can do camming, texting, writing letters or sending small little presents through the mail as ways of keeping in touch and you can surprise your partner by talking to them when they’re not expecting it. Regular contact is an apart of good communication and helps you feel close to each other.
8) Take care of yourself
You need to take care of yourself, especially if you’re dealing with the quarantine, because you want to stay healthy and happy. Being in a long-distance relationship can make you feel sad and if you neglect yourself it’ll make things worse. By eating healthy, staying fit and spending time with friends you will feel more positive and this attitude will flow into your relationship. Being away from your partner will take less of a toll on you and when you talk to them you’ll be upbeat which is going to make the mood better.
9) Plan for the future
Planning for the future is vital in a long-distance relationship because it’s not something that can go on indefinitely. You need to have a clear idea of what’s expected from this relationship and a timeline of what’s going to happen. You and your partner need to talk about what you want for the future so you’re on the same page. Discuss how long you’re going to be apart and what will happen when it’s time to be together in person. Figure out if you’re going to go live with them or if they’re going to come to you, if you’ll live together in the same home or just be in the same city or if the end goal is to get married.
10) Schedule visits
Depending on the long-distance relationship it’s possible to visit each other and this is something you should plan to do. You can plan to meet one weekend every month or if the distance is too great you can plan to see each other every six months and alternate on who’s traveling so it’s easier to budget for. Knowing that it’s only a matter of time before you see each other can give you something to look forward to and make it bearable to be apart. It’ll also be fun for the two of you to plan the trip and think about all the things you can do during your time together.
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