When you’re in a relationship it’s easy to miss little signs that things aren’t right and your partner is changing your life in a negative way. This is why it’s important to remember there are some things you should never sacrifice, no matter who you love. When you constantly remind yourself that both of you need to be willing to compromise, that maintaining relationships with other people and being true to yourself are vital then it’s easier to keep a balance in the relationship. When you don’t sacrifice what’s important you’re going to be happier in life and will be in a healthy relationship.
1) Your ability to compromise
Being able to compromise is key in a relationship because without it there’s going to be someone who always does without and that person may be you. You need to insist that this is something both of you do when there’s a disagreement so that the two of you can learn how to deal with difficult situations. When you compromise the result needs to be fair for both of you and neither of you should feel like you’ve been bullied into giving into your partner’s demand. When you learn how to do this effectively arguments can be avoided and you feel like your opinion matters.
2) Your happiness
You can lose your happiness by letting your partner constantly belittle you, by ignoring their inability to compromise or by not doing things you enjoy because you know they don’t like it. When this happens it’s hard to get things back to the way they were before but it’s easy for things to get even worse because your partner knows you’re willing to put their needs above yours. When you start feeling like you’re spending more of your time being unhappy you need to figure out what’s causing it and talk to your partner about what changes you think can help the situation.
3) Your hobbies
Hobbies are important to have because it gives you something to do in your spare time, it gets your creativity flowing and helps make you feel fulfilled. When your partner tries to take these away from you by complaining about them or forcing you to spend more time with them then you need to find a compromise. Figure out a schedule so you can still do your hobbies but also have a regular date night. If you don’t do this and give up your hobbies, you’re going to lose a part of your personality.
4) Your career
Having a career is something that nearly everyone needs because it’s how you pay the bills, feel a sense of accomplishment and gives you goals to work towards as you progress. If you sacrifice your career by not going after promotions or doing the bare minimum that’s required because you’re too focused on your partner then you’re going to cause problems in your life. If your partner feels you’re spending too much time at work you need to compromise and come up with a better work/life balance schedule instead of choosing them and doing what they want.
5) Spending time with friends
Spending time with friends is something you need to compromise on when you’re in a relationship because you have to work on being part of a couple. When you’re able to do this you end up maintaining your friendships and having a social life while also having quality time with your partner. If you sacrifice your friendships your world starts revolving around your partner and it becomes an unhealthy, co-dependent relationship. This makes you feel isolated which is why you need to make sure your friends are still a priority in your life.
6) The relationship with your family
You should never let your partner come between you and your family because this is abusive behavior. You can’t compromise on the relationship you have with them because these are people who love you and will always be there for you. You need to remember that romantic relationships can end at any time and if you break up with your partner it’s your family who may be able to provide moral support. You can’t let your partner isolate you because this traps you in the relationship and you’re going to miss out on special moments with your family.
7) Wanting to achieve goals
It’s normal to have goals you want to achieve but if your partner is the jealous type or is someone who isn’t very motivated they may try to force you to forget about them. They tell you it’s a waste of time or you’re not good enough to achieve them and eventually you start believing them. When you sacrifice your goals you’re giving up on life and stop growing as a person. You have to look at your goals and only compromise on them if they’re outlandish or if you’re willing to wait until you’re single to work on them.
8) Who you really are
You can’t compromise on who you really are because it takes a toll on your mental health. You can’t pretend to like something or stop doing things you love just because your partner bullies you into doing this. You’re going to lose touch with everything that means something to you, will alienate people who care about you and make you feel guilty about living a lie. You need to stand up for yourself and if your partner tries to change you then you need to break up with them.
9) Your beliefs
When you compromise your beliefs because of your partner you’re letting yourself down and letting them know you’re easily controlled by them. This isn’t a healthy way to be and your partner can take advantage of this to make you do even worse things. You need to stick to your beliefs because this is your moral compass and without it you’re going to do things you regret. You don’t want to live this way so be firm and don’t be afraid to walk away if they push your boundaries.
10) Your alone time
You need to have some alone time when you’re in a relationship because it stops you from feeling smothered and gives you a chance to relax and do something just for you. This isn’t something you should compromise because it can lead to tension between you and your partner since spending too much time together can lead to annoyances. Both of you need to have some time apart so that when you’re together it still feels special.
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