8 Things to know before using 40 and over dating sites

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using dating sites over 40s There are tons of dating sites you can join, from ones that are for all adults to ones that are age specific and ones that cater to certain niches while others are more generic. Using one that is right for you is important if you want to be successful because it lets you meet like-minded people. A site that’s for people who are over 40 is a good choice if you’re in that age group because you can meet people who are similar to you and you have an idea of what to expect from the other members. This gives you a better chance for meeting the person who’s right for you and you’ll be glad you joined.

1) Join multiple dating sites

There are lots of dating sites for you to choose from and you don’t know which one is right for you until you actually try them out. You can increase your chances of meeting someone if you join two or three of them. This lets more people see your profile and one site may be easier for you to use than another one. Use these sites for a couple of months to give them a chance at working because you can always delete your online profile later on.

2) Your appearance does matter

Your appearance does matter on dating sites because your profile picture is the first thing other members notice. You want them to see a picture that makes them notice you and click on your profile. Since it’s a site for people who are over 40 they’re not expecting you to look young and fit but they do expect you to look confident, clean and dressed nicely. Spend some time working on yourself by getting a haircut and picking out a couple of nice outfits to wear in pictures. You want to present yourself as a sophisticated silver fox instead of a middle-aged man stuck in a rut.

3) You’re expected to act your age

If you’re self-conscious about your age you might try to present yourself as being younger but this is a bad thing to do on dating sites. People want to know whom they’re meeting and if you don’t act your age then it gives them a negative impression of you. They wonder why you’re clinging to your youth instead of embracing who you are and they don’t want to date someone who puts on an act. You need to accept being over 40 and you can do this by not using slang, dressing age appropriately and talk about what you know instead of the latest pop culture news.

4) They’re going to have baggage

People on dating sites like adult friendinder who are middle aged have baggage; it’s a normal part of life. The people you meet on there are going to be divorced, may have children, are pessimistic about dating and might have other issues. You have to expect this and can’t overlook possible matches just because you want someone who is perfect. This is an unrealistic expectation and you’re sabotaging your search. You need to remember that you have baggage too and consider messaging someone whom has a similar background to you based on what they mention in their online profile.

5) You need to fill out your online profile

They’re not about wasting time checking out other users or chatting on forums so make sure you use it in the right way. Take the time to fill out your online profile because it has many different sections and you want users to know that you’re taking it seriously. This can also help you be more successful because it tells people what you’re like and helps them decide if you’re someone they want to get in touch with.

6) It’s bad to be too eager

Dating sites give you a rush of excitement because there’s so many people to message, there’s lot of sexy pictures to look at and you never know who you’re going to meet. This can make you rush into messaging people and wanting to hook up as soon as possible. Doing this sends the wrong idea because it makes you seem desperate which is a turn off. You have to keep control and send only one message at a time to each person, wait for them to reply and don’t answer their message right away. Take your time and let them know you’re serious about meeting but don’t try to make it happen in the next couple of days. This is a better approach and is a better way to start getting to know other people.

7) Honesty is important

Dishonest people use dating sites in different ways, including scammers and people who pretend to be someone they’re not because they don’t think they’re good enough. People who have been using these sites for a while learn how to spot dishonest people and avoid checking out an online profile that seems shady. If you lie or hide information, like being divorced or have children, then it’s just a matter of time before you slip up and get caught. Be honest in your online profile even if it means some users won’t be interested in you. Those who do message you will appreciate your honesty and there’s a better chance of success with meeting them because they feel like they can trust you.

8) Take realistic pictures

realistic pictures
It’s tempting to take flattering pictures to post on dating sites because you want to be popular on there and meet lots of sexy singles. The problem is that eventually they’re going to want to cam with you or meet in person. This is why you need to take realistic pictures of yourself even if you don’t like the way you look. Don’t worry about not being in great shape or being over 40, you need to show confidence in yourself. Take a nice profile picture of your face and be smiling it in because this is the first picture they see. You can add more pictures, including full body ones, to your profile so they can see what you really look like.

Dating Writer at MonkeysReviews.com
She lives in Malibu (California).
Currently She works as dating writer for different adult blogs, and She coaches men and women on sex and relationship.
Katy Benett

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