When your relationship has become boring you need to do something to bring spontaneity and excitement back into it or you risk drifting apart and breaking up. You don’t want that to happen so you need to be proactive.
1) You find conversations boring
Sharing things with your partner and having meaningful or interesting conversations with them is important because it brings you closer together and helps you understand each other better. When conversations become boring it means you have nothing left to say to each other and you spend more of your time in silence which causes you to drift apart. You need to find ways to make your conversations more interesting and you can do this by talking about something that your partner is passionate about, coming up with fun date ideas to discuss or showing a genuine interest in what your partner wants to discuss.
2) You no longer look forward to date nights
Date nights should always be something you find excitement in because you’re spending time with the person you love most in the world so if you’re finding them boring then there’s a problem. You can make date nights something to look forward to again by getting creative and going to places you haven’t gone before or doing activities you’ve always wanted to try. You can also stop date nights from being boring by bringing back spontaneity and surprising your partner with a date when they’re expecting a quiet night at home.
3) You spend less time together
Spending less time together is a big sign that your relationship has become boring and that you’re finding more enjoyable from doing other things like spending time with friends or working on hobbies. Those things are healthy activities to do in moderation but your relationship should be the main area for your attention because you’re supposed to be spending the rest of your life with your partner. You need to start making an effort at spending quality time together so you can keep the bond between you strong. You can increase how often you go on date nights, spend less time on distractions like watching TV or playing on your phone and find new ways to enjoy each other’s company.
4) There’s a lack of sincerity
A lack of sincerity can make your relationship boring because you’ll feel like your partner doesn’t care anymore and you’ll be less likely to spend time with them or share personal things with them. You can bring sincerity back into your relationship by making eye contact when you talk to them, express how you feel, listen when they talk, be supportive and don’t tease them about things they’re sensitive about. This will make them feel good and remember what the relationship used to be like before it got boring. They’ll miss the way things were and will work with you to make things great again and it’ll be just a matter of time before you’re laughing and enjoying each other’s company again.
5) You can’t remember the last time you did something exciting
If you can’t remember the last time you did something exciting with your partner then things have definitely gotten boring. It doesn’t have to be a major thing like going on vacation, it can be a small thing like trying a new restaurant or visiting a local attraction. These things add excitement to your relationship and makes you feel like you’re experiencing life so when you don’t do them you get stuck in a rut and a boring feeling settles over you. There are lots of small ways to bring spontaneity into your life so make it something you do once or twice a month. You can do things like go for a picnic instead of having dinner at home, go for a sunset walk in the park instead of sitting on the couch or try a new sex position to spice things up in the bedroom.
6) You ignore each other when you’re together
It’s boring sitting in a room with someone and they’re ignoring you because they’re playing on the phone or watching TV and this is something you probably do with your partner every day. It’s okay to do this after a long day at work because it’s good to relax and zone out but on days when you’re well rested you should be focused more on your partner. You can change this behavior by paying attention to how you act when you’re together and putting down your phone or turning off the TV so you can do something more important like talk to each other or go out and do an activity.
7) You don’t talk to your friends about it
You won’t talk to your friends about your relationship when it’s boring because there’s no excitement to keep the conversation going and you don’t want them to know that things have changed. You don’t mention your life with your partner at all and when your friends ask you how things are going you keep it vague by saying that everything is okay. If your relationship was going good or was interesting then you’d want to share it with your friends. You can get ideas on how to have spontaneity or excitement in your life again by listening to your friends when they talk about their relationship and see if those are things you can do with your partner.
8) You fantasize more often
Fantasizing is a way of escaping reality and exploring how things could be and you’ll be doing this often if you find your current life boring. You’ll fantasize about what you’d do if you were single or think about what it would be like to date someone new and eventually you’ll be tempted to live out your fantasies if you don’t change how boring things are in your real life. You can share with your partner some of your fantasies and make them a reality so you don’t feel like you’re missing out on excitement and since it’s an activity you’re doing together it’ll bring you closer together while strengthening the bond you share.
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