8 Things to do if your partner orgasms too quickly

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your partner orgasms too quickly Having a partner who has an orgasm too quickly is a common issue couples have in the bedroom and it can be difficult or awkward to deal with. You don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings but you also want sex longer lasting then it’s something you need to be deal with. It’s possible to try a few techniques without your partner knowing what you’re doing but if you want them to be aware of the problem and work on it as a couple then you can bring it up in a tactful way. Either way, this is a situation that needs to be dealt with sooner rather than later because you’re going to have a healthier and happier relationship when you have sex longer.

1) Have lots of foreplay

Having enough foreplay is important when you want to have sex longer because this is when your arousal levels build. Men tend to become aroused faster than women so they end up having an orgasm sooner because their body is ready for it while women aren’t aroused enough when foreplay is over and they struggle to finish during sex. To stop your partner from having an orgasm too quickly you can spend more time on foreplay and make sure that both of you are fully aroused and ready to take things further.

2) Tell him you need help working on your orgasm

Men can be sensitive about their performance in bed and will get upset if you’re upfront about their inability to have sex longer but you can avoid this by putting the focus on you. Tell him that you think you take too long to orgasm and that you want to work together as a couple to make sex better for you. He’s going to enjoy finding ways of pleasuring you and this is going to distract him from his own orgasm. Afterwards you can casually mention how much you loved having sex longer and he’ll want to take things slow again next time since he probably liked it as well.

3) Try a new position

Trying a new position can help sex longer lasting because it takes time for the two of you to figure it out and get comfortable and your body needs time to get used to it. You can bring up trying a new position before sex starts by suggesting something you saw and want to try. You can also bring it up during sex when you feel like he’s getting to close to having an orgasm and tell him what you want him to do to you. This makes sex more fun and it’s going to naturally make sex longer. You can broaden your sexual routine by making it a habit of trying new positions or roleplays on a regular basis and use it as an opportunity to explore your fantasies.

4) Slow things down

After you’ve been with your partner for a while you get to know them very well and can pick up on little signs that they might not be aware of. You can have sex longer by paying attention to your partner and adjusting the pace of how things are moving. Remember the sounds or moves your partner makes just before they orgasm and when you notice they’re about to finish you can slow things down. You can moan and tell them to go slower, you can be less frantic with your own movements or ask them to do something to you as a distraction. When you think they’ve had a chance to get themselves under control you can start to gradually build up the excitement again.

5) Practice mindfulness

Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness can help make sex longer because it’s about you making an effort to be in the moment. When you’re having sex you can take your time and enjoy each moment before moving on to the next one. Instead of rushing through foreplay spend time touching your partner in ways that they like and during sex you can check in to see how your partner’s feeling to make sure you’re going at a pace they’re comfortable with. You can also be more sensual by making eye contact and talking to them during sex to make the connection you feel stronger.

6) Use desensitizing lube or cream

If you’re honest with your partner about your desire to make sex longer then you can suggest they use a desensitizing lube or cream before having sex with you. These products are easy to find in stores and online and all you have to do is apply it before starting foreplay. They’re safe to use and make sex longer by lightly numbing the genitals which reduces the amount of friction your partner feels. This makes it more difficult to achieve orgasm and teaches him that there’s more to sex than finishing quickly. If he’s embarrassed about using products like these then you can put a positive spin on it by telling him how much it turns you on knowing that you can spend more time having sex and that it’s going to be a great experience for the two of you.

7) Try edging them

If you want to make sex longer then you might need to help your partner learn to control himself better and realize when he’s close to finishing. You can make this a fun thing to do in bed by practicing edging. This is when you bring your partner to the point of an orgasm then stopping so he has time to calm down before stimulating him again. You can do this during intercourse or by giving him a hand job. Over time he’ll learn to control his bodily functions and will be able to hold off on having an orgasm when he’s having sex with you.

8) Keep having sex after they orgasm

Sex doesn’t have to end after one of you has an orgasm so try extending the amount of time you have sex. If your partner orgasms first then take a small break from having sex while still keeping things sexy by playing with yourself or having them touch you. After they’ve had time to calm down you can go for another sex session. Since they’ve just had an orgasm it’ll be harder for them to have another one and they’ll be able to focus more on yours. You can use this as a way to bring multiple orgasms into your sex life and have it become a regular routine because this will make sex more satisfying and help your partner deal with their orgasm problem.

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She lives in Malibu (California).
Currently She works as dating writer for different adult blogs, and She coaches men and women on sex and relationship.
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