Adult sex dating is easy when you’re in your 20’s but it gets harder when you’re after 40. Here are 7 tips for you to use to make it easier.
1) Join a sex dating site
There are a lot of sex dating sites out there and quite a few of them cater to older people. You can join one and find someone who’s in a similar age and life phase as you. You’ll have more in common with a 45 year old divorcee than a 20 year old who just wants to party on the weekend. Yes it may sound like more found but you want someone that you can relate to and not have awkward silences with.
2) Know what kind of relationship you want
Are you looking for a long term relationship or a fling? Know what you’re looking for and be clear about it when you meet someone so they don’t get the wrong idea. If you’re upfront about what you want then it will save you time by not getting involved with someone in a relationship that won’t work out.
3) Be outgoing
There are lots of single people out there who would love to meet someone, you just need to find them. Go to singles night at bars or give speed dating a try.
The more you go out and meet people the better your chances of meeting that special someone. If you’re not into social scenes like that you could ask one of your friends to set you up on a blind date.
4) Be positive
Don’t think you’re too old to find someone new and unconsciously push members of the opposite sex away. If you find someone that you\re attracted try and keep things light. Don’t talk about your ex, your kids or issues you’re having at work. Focus on your hobbies and plans for the future. People like dating someone that’s upbeat and has a good personality.
5) Be patient
If you don’t click with the first person you meet don’t give up. It may take some time before you find the person you’re looking for. If you know for sure you don’t want to see someone again be honest and tell them before moving on.If you’re not sure about someone then give them a second date before making up your mind.
6) Make yourself look attractive
Age should have no impact on how you present yourself. This doesn’t mean you should dress too young for your age. It means that you should take pride in your appearance.
Shave, get a haircut, buy a few new shirts and make yourself look like an adult who knows how to look after themselves and is taking their life seriously. No one wants to date someone that goes around in ripped jeans and stained t-shirts.
7) Put the focus on yourself, not what you’ve achieved
A lot of people think that the older you are the more money you have in the bank. Try to avoid mentioning how well off you are and whether or not your house is paid off. This will help stop gold diggers and scammers from getting interested in you. Instead of mentioning a fancy vacation you took you could mention your hobbies like playing hockey on the weekends or going to bars and listening to live bands.
Currently She works as dating writer for different adult blogs, and She coaches men and women on sex and relationship.
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