Interracial dating is something that’s still upsetting to some people so if you’re in this type of relationship you need to be patient when meeting parents for the first time. It might take some time for them to get used to the idea but there are a few things you can do to make it easier.
1) Tell them ahead of time
Your parents aren’t going to react well if you’re surprise them by showing up with your partner so tell them ahead of time so they can get used to the idea of you dating someone of a different race. Be upfront and let them know they might have trouble accepting your relationship then tell them why. Listen to what they have to say so they don’t feel like you’re ignoring their feelings.
2) Be patient
Depending on your parent’s attitude you might have to be patient with them and understand they might never accept your relationship. Don’t get upset with them if they react badly because that will just make things worse and be respectful. They’re entitled to their opinions but by being calm and rational you might be able to gradually change their mind.
3) Find common ground
Before you and your partner meets a set of parents it’s a good idea to take some time and find something they have in common. Make a list of their interests and your partners to find something both sides can enjoy and relate to, it could be a hobby, movie or activity. Whatever it is you can use it to break the ice and start a connection between them.
4) Make it clear it’s a serious relationship
Your parents might be more accepting if they understand that it’s a serious relationship and that you care deeply for each other. Talk to them privately before the first meeting and tell them how much you love your partner and why they’re important to you so your parents can see things from your point of view. They still might not be happy but this could help them be more open-minded about meeting your partner.
5) Avoid talking about that
You want your parents to focus on your partner as a person with interests and feelings instead of a skin color so steer the conversation to that. If your parents try to bring up their race then gently change the subject to something less controversial.
6) Don’t be overly affectionate with your partner
Parents feel uncomfortable when they see their child act affectionate with their partner and this feeling is worse when it’s with someone they don’t approve of. Avoid doing things like kissing or cuddling your partner until your parents have gotten used to them and stick to things like holding hands and smiling at each other. This way your parents won’t feel like you’re rubbing your relationship in their face.
7) Talk to your partner beforehand
Talk to your partner before meeting the parents so they understand what’s going on because this will decrease the chances of them saying or doing something that your parents won’t like. Make sure they know that you support them and will try to make the meeting go as smoothly as possible so they don’t feel like they’re dealing with this on their own.
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