When should you have sex in a new relationship?

October 9, 2016 Posted in Adult Dating Guide by No Comments

Couple in bed It’s always tricky taking your relationship to the next level and going from talking over dinner while you get to know each other better to becoming a couple in bed. If you make the move too soon then you could be making a mistake and the consequences could end up costing you the relationship.

It’s always better to wait before you have sex because it makes a better impression on your partner. If you try and get it on the first date or after only knowing each other for a week or two then it makes your partner feel like you’re only with them for sex. This won’t make them feel good about you or the relationship and they might break up with you. By waiting for a few weeks or even longer you’re letting them know that you’re with them because you like them for who they are. Waiting also gives you time to figure out if this person is right for you because once you have sex they’re going to feel emotionally closer to you and it will be harder to break up with them.

It isn’t just about what you want and you might be ready to have sex when your partner isn’t. The relationship won’t last long if they feel like you’re pressuring them so pay attention to them and see if they feel the same way you do. Women need to feel safe and comfortable with a man before they can have sex with them if they’re serious about the relationship so letting her make the first move is a good idea. If they make an effort to get close to you and are dropping hints about wanting more from you then it’s time for you take things into the bedroom.

Nobody likes to admit they have an STD and will claim they’re clean even if they’re not because they’re afraid of being judged. Just because you think your partner is clean it’s best to be careful and wait to have sex until you’ve brought it up. Be casual about it and ask if there’s anything you need to know before the two of you take the relationship to the next level. Be honest with them about your STD status as well so that both of you know what’s going on and use a condom until you both get tested.

Having sex with someone new is always awkward because you’re not used to each other and you don’t know how they like to be touched. A strong sign that you’re ready to take things into the bedroom is when you know that no matter how awkward the first time is you’ll still want to be with them and make sex even better the second time. You’ll know you’re ready when you feel confident about the relationship and that it’s going to last for the foreseeable future.

It’s rarely a good idea to have sex early in a relationship because you’re just getting to know each other. Waiting a few weeks or longer gives you time to learn what they’re like and decide if the relationship is more than just a fling.

Katy Benett